Articles By Sasha LeBaron

Seven Life Partner Relationship Traps and How To Avoid Them

Trap 1. Only a lover and not a real friend.

All lasting relationships are also friendships. Get to know your partner, learn his or her dislikes, likes and preferences. Really listen to what is important to them. This may sound elementary but you wouldn't believe how many people are lovers but not friends. Friends and lovers equals lasting passion.

Trap 2. Putting others first

You are only as able to love another as much as you are able to love yourself. So take care of you! Pamper yourself. Take yourself on dates too! It will improve all your other relationships as you build a real relationship with yourself. From abundance we can be generous, from poverty we can only beg.

Trap 3. If the sex is great...

This is a very dangerous situation. Don't be fooled into thinking you have found your perfect life partner just because you are having great sex! It can happen but sexual infatuation can become very toxic very fast if one isn't extremely alert. So grow your relationship first and if the sex is great it will get better but if all you have is hot sex you will ultimately end up loosing on the relationship end of the equation.

Trap 4. Depending on your partner for your happiness

You are a goner if you fall into the quicksand here. This is the root of many co-dependant or even abusive relationships. Nurture your self esteem. Love yourself as a person then join with another whole person. If you are having feelings of self loathing this is a sign that you may not yet be ready to meet the level of trust, openness and commitment that is required for a long term healthy relationship.

Trap 5. Investing too much energy on sex and romance rather than working on the relationship

Don't get me wrong. There is a time and place for lots of romance and sex in a healthy relationship but never ever substitute them for the relationship itself. This is a hard distinction for some but when you look at old couples who are still together and happy after many years you have to und erstand that romance and sex are less important to the longevity of that relationship than friendship, patience and unconditional love.

Trap 6. Searching for that “perfect relationship” without knowing what you want.

This is a serious problem for many people. They go out looking for Mr. or Ms. Right and don't even know them when they find them, because they don't even know what they want for themselves! Write out your “must haves” when it comes to your ideal relationship and read them out loud. This step is more than most people ever do and will allow you to have a much better idea when you do meet the right person.

Trap 7. Not being honest about what you want, how you really feel or what really bothers you.

This is a killer. Walking on eggshells, fights, sleeping on the couch. No one wants these things and yet to avoid them you must be clear with yourself and your partner about what your feelings, wants and needs are. Also help them to share the same by asking and listening fully when they share of themselves in this intimate area.